Are you suffering from the Chronic “Yes, but” Syndrome?
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The Chronic "Yes, but" Syndrome
What is the Chronic “Yes, but” Syndrome?
It is a syndrome the cause a person to have the uncontrollable feeling of excitement and responding in a quick “YES”, then immediately following by the over whelming fear of risk, there by his or her reflexology of saying the word “BUT”. As a result, the person never takes any action.
Who can be affected by this syndrome?
Everyone can be a victim of the Chronic “Yes, but” Syndrome.
What is the risk of Chronic “Yes, but” Syndrome?
Self-defeating behavior: Normally in the form of rationalizing their current circumstance. Often time patients say thing like, “Yes, I could do…but…”They do nothing and their lives never improve.
Unhappiness: Patients felt unresolved and burnout about their problems.
Depression: Life becomes stagnant, maintaining status quo and settling for less than you deserve.
Isolation: You wallow in self-pity and others are turned off by your complaint. Nobody wants to help you and you felt ignored.
Common costs of the Chronic “Yes, but” Syndrome?
The older a person gets the more likely they feel the need of security and comfort. This usually is due to the memories of past history of the person’s experience. A person’s risk tolerance decrease and there need of safety increase. The obsession of the needs of knowing all the “in’s and out’s” of any situation become so powerful that the patient can’t start on anything new or do anything different without a high leave of certainty like a “Guarantee”. While the person are busy waiting for the Guarantee the Chronic “Yes, but” Syndrome sets in and it can be permanent.
Prevention and cure to the Chronic “Yes, but” Syndrome.
1. Stop saying the word “BUT”.
2. Ask yourself “What if I take action, what good things could possibly happen?”
3. Ask yourself “What if I take action, what is the worst possible thing that can happen?” Can you live with that?
4. Decide to pursue a better live for yourself and choose to take action.
5. Adopt the philosophy that Imperfect Action is better than No action and live by that every day.
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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A Mule with the winning attitude.
30 June 2009
Have you heard of the say, “It is not what happen to you is not as important as the attitudes of how you react to what happen that matter the most.”
Here is a story about a Mule with the winning attitude.
The Old Mule
Once upon a time a farmer owned an old mule who tripped and fell into the farmer’s well. The farmer heard the mule braying and was unable to figure out how to bring up the old animal. It grieved him that he could not pull the animal out. He’d been a good worker around the farm. Although the farmer sympathized with the mule, he called his neighbors together and told them what had happened. He had them help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and quietly put him out of his misery.
At first, the old mule was puzzled, but as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, he had a thought: he ought to shake off the dirt and step up. And he did just that.
“Shake it off and step up…shake it off and step up…shake it off and step up.” Even though he took painful blows of dirt and fought panic, he just kept right on shaking it off and stepping up!
It wasn’t long before the old mule stepped up and over the lip of that well. What could have buried him actually blessed him…all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.
~Author Unknown
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.” by Charles R. Swindoll
What value did you learn from the story of the Mule?
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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Leaving Absolutely No Regret
29 June 2009
No Regrets
My Grandma Millie is 96 years old, she live a very happy live. A purposeful life; she was a Missionary in the Philippine for many years along side with Grandpa Homer, plus my Dad and his 3 sisters. Grandma Millie has been staying in a Care Center for the last month because of her medical need. The family has asked everyone to stop sending Get Well card, instead to send Thinking of you card; due to the reality of her situation. Also, the family have begin going through her things and allow family member to take some of her things to remember her by.
Many letters and poems came in the mail for Grandma Millie, a sign of how well she is loved and what impacted she made on so many people’s lives. Grandma Millie is a woman who lives her life to the fullest and she made every day of her life counts.
Naturally the question that comes to my mind is “How well do we live our life?” When it is the end of my days, will there be letters and poems written for me? And what will it say about me? How about you, what do you want to see at the end of your days?
Here is a poem that carries the message of living life the way I think how life is meant to lived.
Life’s too short
that pull and tear on your heart strings
so park those thoughts that make you worry
and create new goals to which you’ll hurry.
Make your list of things to do
that always seemed not part of you
make yourself explore unknowns
write down your thoughts dig up those bones
Take a step toward things that scare you
Show who’s boss while mind prepares to
overcome what seems unrealistic
before you lose it and go ballistic
Do something different every day
and watch as life shows new path ways
Life’s too short to dwell on things
that pull and tear on your heart strings.
I am dedicating a song by Tracy Chapman title “Sing for you” to Grandma Millie and my neighbor Alex who’s Grandma Inga just past way last Saturday.
Life is a precious gift, and the way we say thank you is to make the most out of life.
Let’s live everyday to the MAX and leaving Absolutely No Regret.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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Is there a short cut to success?
28 June 2009
Climbing up a mountain
In my work as an inspiration speaker and a success coach, often time people come to me for help to achieving more success in their lives. As much as I wish I could hand over a magic key for them to unlock success. The true of the matter is there is no such thing as a magic key.
What normally happen is that the client and I together determine what their goals are, than with a little more understanding of what my client’s back ground, strengths and weaknesses. I gain the knowledge of whom my client is as a person and after learning what are his or her motivations, I have a good sense of what my client is all about.
From that point on, I help my client define the necessary steps to achieve their goals. Follow by a time table, where we create the time line of schedule tasks to be done. Sound easy enough?
Most people at this point are amazed by how simple the steps are and logical the plans are. Normally they are very excited about having the steps and the plans of what to do. Every time, I tell them, “The success of you, depends on how willing you are to pay your dues!” Never have I had one client that disagreed with me, on the surface everyone understands that they have to pay their dues and do the work.
Yet, realistically more people ended up not doing the work to help themselves successful than those who actually took the steps to pay their dues. Why does that happen? How could it be? Didn’t every one of them say they want help to achieve more success in life? If they really want to have a better life why don’t they do the work? Could it be that these people don’t really want a better life?
The answer I believe is, “Yes, they do want a better life.” It is just that they can’t seem to kick the habit… the habit of laziness. Their lazy habits screamed out louder than their desire for success.
The desire for success speaks to them and it motivates them like a strong cup of coffee. So, these people say, “I can do this, I want a better life so bad that I will do whatever it takes… so on and so forth” Everyone got a strong start.
Than the lazy habits came in and it starts to talk, it says things like: excuses, justifying why they can’t and then asking for short cut. Most time the voice of laziness sounds like: “I got too much going on right now, I will start later.” Or, “I don’t have any help or support, it is just Too Hard! It is not easy for me…” Then last but not least, “If only there is an easier way, something that can help me makes it happen faster and simpler. So I don’t have to work as hard…A short cut!”
Looking for a short cut is not the same as looking for a way to work smarter. Working smarter is just looking for a way to work more effectively. The key being the word WORK is involved. Short Cut is all about doing less…to CUT. And there is no way to achieve more by putting in less.
Success comes to those who are willing to pay their dues. If you want to get up to the top of the mountain, you have to climb up hill. There is no short cut, you just have to climb. The same goes to success, there is no short cut!
The only thing short cut is good for is to cut your potential.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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Do you have a theme song for life?
23 June 2009Music have the power to inspire you, open your eyes, make you think. Music can energize you, move your body and keep you company.
Maybe you are having a day that is a little blue. Music can help you get through your day, unwind, solve your problems, or just take that load off your mind. It can inspire you to face yet another day…
Music even have the power to heal. The right music can fill you with awe and wonder, lift you out of your everyday life and send you soaring high in the sky. It can give you hope, stimulate your imagination, and help you change your life and then change the world.
Music can express love, commonality, humanity, compassion, and empathy… Music can take you from where you are now and take you to where you wish to be. A song that speaks to you can give you the comfort, in knowing that someone else understands where you are and how you feel. The right music can energize you to move beyond procrastination, denial, or whatever blocks you have.
Music also have healing power, an inspirational song have the ability to open our hearts and give us the power to move forward.
The song ‘Imperfect Action’ is the anthem of Imperfect Action is better than No Action. It is an inspiration song that is going to uplift your spirit, empower you to take action with your life and live the philosophy of Imperfect Action is better than No Action. So you can stop waiting for the perfect moment and overcome procrastination today!
Watch the new music video for Imperfect Action, I hope it will inspire you and empower you with the strength you need. You can down this song and music video for free at the upper right hand side of the page under free music video download.
Do you have a anthem or a theme song for life? Share with me, I like to know.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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The Chief Evangelist for Guy Kawasaki’s Alltop.com
22 June 2009
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Guy Kawasaki is the author of 9 bestselling books, a well respected speaker. Founder of Alltop.com, a columnist for Entrepreneur Magazine, managing director of Garage Technology Ventures and he was an Apple Fellow at Apple Computer, Inc.
Does Guy Kawasaki sounds impressive to you? My answer is absolutely and wouldn’t it be great to have an opportunity to work for a man like him? Imagine what you can learn from someone like him.
My guest today is Neenz Faleafine. Neenz knows firsthand what it is like working closely with Guy Kawasaki. Neenz is the Chief Evangelist of Alltop. In her own words, “The Chief Evangelist do whatever it takes, as often as I possibly can to spread the good news about Alltop.” Neenz also have her own business ponomedia.com building communites through social media.
In our interview she shared the story about how Guy and her got connected through twitter, how she made a decision regarding a free TiVo and a funny story about an OPML file…All of that put her in the path that she is on today.
Neenz is an very inspiring person. She created her own opportunity by helping, in order to have the chance to learn from the best. She hope to never stop learning. She said, “When you stop learning, you’re just existing.”
Neenz wrote her own ticket in life. Her story will show you with a great attitude,her ability to keep taking actions under imperfect circumstance and the willingness to grind it out… leaded her right to Guy Kawasaki. In a short amount of time, how she became The Chief Evangelist of Alltop. Neenz is a woman with a lot of wisdom and she said, “If you want something you have to work for it.”
Neenz Faleafine and Giovanna Garcia
The interview is just under 20 minutes. Neenz Faleafine will inspire you to take action and get more out of life. I promise it is 20 minutes well spent and you will be glad you did.
To Listen:
What did you learn from Neeze Faleafine?
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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25 women help a widower breast feed his baby.
20 June 2009
Marquette residents Robbie Goodrich and 11 of the women who are currently breast-feeding his son Moses are shown in this picture that will be published in People magazine Friday. From top left are Teisha Foster, Karla Niemi, Tina Charboneau, Carrie Fiocchi, Eyre Becker, Nicoletta Fraire, Sally Keskey, Sarah McDougal, Nikki Murray, Courtney Chase and Kyra Fillmore. (Photo by Gabrielle Revere for People magazine)
Yesterday, I was sitting in the waiting room at my doctor’s office. I picked up a People Magazine that was laying around on their coffee table, inside was a story: Feeding Moses. It was a story about a
community’s effort in feeding one baby for one widower father. Just when I started to get into this story, I got called in the office.
After leaving the doctor’s office, I went straight to the newsstand to buy my own copy of the Magazine. Only to learn that it was a past issues. I came home searching on the internet and I was able to find the following information about the story. This is not from People Magazine, but the meaning of this story is a must read.
Robbie Goodrich a history professor became a widower back in January when his son Charles Moses Martin Goodrich was born. His wife Susan was 46 yrs old and she die from a rare obstetric emergency at the Marquette General Hospital.
While Robbie was still in shock over his wife’s sudden death, Robbie quickly realized he had to find a way to feed his newborn son.
The hospital didn’t carry any breast milk, so a nurse helped Robbie looked into getting breast milk for baby Moses. They found that, the soonest they can have breast milk deliver to Marquette would take several days.
In the meantime, Robbie received a phone call from family friend who was still nursing her fourth child, 1-year-old Emily. In her message, she offered Robbie to nurse Moses.
That’s when the new dad realized he wanted baby Moses to be nursed. It’s something that his wife would have wanted.
With the help of a family friend, Nicoletta Fraire, Robbie made contact with Sally Keskey, founder of the Yooper Nursers - a local breast feeding support group. Within a brief time, nearly 20 women were found who offered to breast-feed Moses.
A schedule was put together with feeding times at 9 a.m., noon, 1:30 , 4 , 6:30 and 8 p.m. Six times a day a different mother has been feeding Moses. During the night, Robbie bottle-feeds his son breast milk that was pumped by the women.
Robbie Goodrich and Baby Moses
The busy dad says that having the women come to his house to nurse Moses and often bringing their own children, has been good for him. Robbie said,
“These are deeply caring individuals who spend time and work with me,” he said. “They’ve all treated me with the utmost graciousness and empathy.”
Robbie hope to find enough mothers willing to provide breast milk, to continue nursing Moses until he is a year old.
The dedication of the donation moms is something that is not often found especially when all of these women probably have babies under two. Robbie added: “It’s commitment, passion - it’s love. It’s an act of love.”
This story reminded me of the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child.” May be, it takes a village to feed Moses… A village of women who care and have so much love in their hearts to give little Moses.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Information came from: The mining Journal and Growing your baby.com
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Will these Piglets become tiger cubs or pork chops?
19 June 2009
Tiger Mama with her Piglets
I got the following email from my mother:
In a zoo in California, a mother tiger gave birth to a rare set of triplet tiger cubs. Unfortunately, due to complications in the pregnancy, the cubs were born prematurely and due to their tiny size, they died shortly after birth.
Tiger Mama with her baby pig
The mother tiger after recovering from the delivery suddenly started to decline in health, although physically she was fine. The veterinarians felt that the loss of her litter had caused the tigress to fall into a depression. The doctors decided that if the tigress could surrogate another mother’s cubs, perhaps she would improve.
Tiger Mama caring for her piglets
After checking with many other zoos across the country, the depressing news was that there were no tiger cubs of the right age to introduce to the mourning mother. The veterinarians decided to try something that had never been tried in a zoo environment. Sometimes a mother of one species will take on the care of a different species. The only “orphans” that could be found quickly, were a litter of weanling pigs. The zoo keepers and vets wrapped the piglets in tiger skin and placed the babies around the mother tiger. Would they become cubs or pork chops??
After looking deeper into this story, I learned that the tiger mama and her piglets are from Sriracha Tiger Zoo in Thailand. Where “creating successful relationships with animals of different species” is something of a guiding principle.
The costumes are strictly for show, by the way. The mother tiger pictured above, was herself nursed by a pig in infancy and apparently regards the other species as family, not prey.
So, as my mother would say, “Why can’t the rest of the world get along?” Can we learn world peace form the tiger and her piglets?
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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Failure and success, the Odd Couple.
18 June 2009
Pulling the rope of Failure and success
Failure and success…they are the odd couple. They are the polar opposites of each other, yet you will never find one without the other.
Some people go through life’s running away from failure while they are busy chasing success.
The following quotes might offer some wisdom on Failure and success…
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” by Winston Churchill
“You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try.” by Beverly Sills
“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is to try to please everyone.” by Bill Cosby
“Behind every successful man there’s a lot of unsuccessful years.” by Bob Brown
“If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.” by Maya Angelou
“The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.” by Napoleon Hill
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” by Robert Kennedy
“I would prefer even to fail with honor than to win by cheating.” by Sophocles
“Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.” by William Feather
“Eighty percent of success is showing up.” by Woody Allen
“Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.” by Joyce Brothers
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” by Winston Churchill
“Real success is finding your lifework in the work that you love.” by David McCullough
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.” by Thomas Edison
“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.” by Bill Gates
“I know fear is an obstacle for some people, but it is an illusion to me. . .Failure always made me try harder next time.” Michael Jordan
“Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down.” by Charles Franklin Kettering
“The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” by Vince Lombardi
“Success: Big shots are only little shots who keep shooting.” by Christopher Morley
I wish everyone a happy and purposeful life.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is Better than No Action
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Imperfect Action is Better than No Action on Jobs and the Economy.
17 June 2009Imperfect Action is Better than No Action
Getting past a life-changing event can cause a hesitancy to make a decision due to the inability to predict where this decision will lead you in life. However, if you refuse to completely move on and instead drag yourself down a hole from which there is no escape, you are further debilitating yourself through your lack of action. The entire purpose of the “imperfect action” movement itself is to move against the inaction which so many people take after encountering a difficult decision which stands to set them back.
This terminology has been thrown around the political sphere as of late, due to many descriptions over the change that has occurred in the Obama administration, resulting in imperfect actions (which many political scientists agree is much better than no action). While President Obama is new to the commander-in-chief title, he has already instituted many bouts of change, which is how you go about evolving a country in order to adapt to changes the market may have thrown your way. Simply shying away from the responsibility of decision-making can cause the nation to fall deeper in the recession we are currently in, so the fact that this new administration has the ability to produce change (albeit imperfect) is a telling sign that these imperfection actions should be administered on a smaller level as well. The fact that the economy is already on the mend further helps to prove that the change which was instituted in January have aided in securing the ability of the U.S. economy to bounce back.
Many Americans have been forced to relocate or have found themselves back on the job market in recent years as a result of the turn the economy has taken. This has thus led to a high unemployment rate with many individuals unaware as to how to cope with this type of drastic life change: should they simply wait to hear from a rival company, or actively get out there and look for a job? The answer seems obvious, but so many Americans are disheartened by the loss of their job and the slim pickings of the job market that they seem content to let their careers wither away rather than risk the many rejections that come with looking for a job. It typically takes many interviews before you fine tune your interview skills and learn the tricks which can properly land you a job, but even taking a mediocre job is better than no job at all. Generating some form of income and giving yourself something to do throughout the day is important to keeping your spirits lifted; if you simply lie around your house all day feeling sorry for yourself, there will not be much motivation to look for a job unless you are forced. Even taking a small retail job, while still looking for new jobs, can help to improve your overall situation.
The fact is you cannot let yourself become discouraged by any roadblock that comes your way, and learn to take action, regardless of the outcome. If you constantly weigh your life choices on the risk of failure, you will never gain experiences that are crucial to molding your inner being.
This post was contributed by Meredith Walker, who writes about the health care administration. She welcomes your feedback at MeredithWalker1983 at gmail.com
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