The easiest part to commitment is to commit

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What happens when you make a commitment? Three things happen to you.  The first thing is you actually commit, that’s the easiest part. The second thing is where the difficulty starts, and that’s experiencing resistance. Then the last thing is to over to come the resistance, that’s what is going to make your commitment or break your commitment.

 

Have you ever quit smoking or gone on a diet? Have you ever made any New Year’s resolutions? I’m going to quit smoking this year; I’m going to lose weight this year; whatever the goal is, it’s so easy to make the commitment, that’s why everyone makes a New Year’s resolution.

 

The resistance is the toughest part. Whenever people say, “I am going to quit smoking,” they think up all the reasons in the world why they can’t quit smoking: “My wife and I are having a hard time,” or, “My boyfriend and I are not doing so well,” or, “Things are tough, I’m really stressing, so this is not a good time to stop smoking,” the list go on and on.

 

The moment you make a commitment, all of the reasons in the world to avoid that commitment come out of the woodwork to cling onto you and hold you back. That’s resistance. It can be internal—you doubting yourself—or it can be external—clients, colleagues, and other people telling you no.

 

The third step to commitment is the most important step and it’s what is going to push you over the top. It’s overcoming resistance. You need to be able to overcome it. If you can’t overcome it, you’re back to square one. To overcome resistance, we need to control what is going on in your head. You need to think right, stay focus. Fear and self-doubt are what cripple most people, don’t let that happen to you.