To heal a Broken Heart.
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Why does someone get so sad when their relationship ends? Even if it wasn’t that great of a relationship to begin with!
Are they sad because of the loss of that relationship? Was it because they were so happy? Was it because they were so in love? Or are they sad, because of the loss of their idea of that person? The vision of what he or she represents.
Someone wrote me today, about her loss of her boyfriend of 3 years. They broke up because he was messing around behind her back. She is heart broken over this, I understand! I think most of us can understand. That is because a lot of us have been there before.
The question is “What is she mourning over?” Is she mourning over the end of the relationship with him? A man who cheated on her! Whom I am pretty sure she doesn’t want anyway. Or is she mourning over the idea of him? Her vision of what life would be like with him (get marry, have a family, buy a house etc..) The fact is he is not that guy in her vision. He was just taking up space. Now she is available for more blessing to come her way.
I am sure there was a lesson or two that she did learn in this. Even though she may or may not realize it at this time, I am sure she will realize soon enough. And she will see even though she is in pain, this is a blessing!
Do you have any words of advices for my friend, who we will call “Michelle”?
What would you tell Michelle? To help her with her broken heart!
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
I am sorry for your friend. As far as what I would say, that is a hard one. I think some things there are no words for. Only time eases pain and gives perspective. Right now it just hurts. I would probably just listen.
She needs to look at the bright side and move on. She is Lucky that it is over and he won’t be around to hurt her anymore. She is Lucky she still has life left in her and another chance to move on and hopefully find the right person. She is Lucky to have a friend like you who cares enough to look to others for more suggestions! Speaking from experience! Lucky Lou in Wi
Dear Amy
Yes, I do listen. And your are right about time and perspective. I know she is going to be fine!
She is a wonderful person.
Thanks for your comment.
Giovanna Garcia
Dear Lucky Lou
Thanks for your advice, I am collecting all the comments to share with her later. I think it will help her to hear from someone who is speaking from their heart and experience.
Thanks for your comment.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Take the time that she needs for her self. It is hard for the lose. Some times it is not the lose of that person, but that she now has no one to care for her in that manner ( a boyfriend ). The heart is hurting from being betrayed by him. It will be harder to trust, but she must if she wants to have someone in her life again. Some times we have to be the right person before we can attract the right person into our live. Now is a good time to reflect, not to say I am bad because he did not want me. Now it is time to say take a class to learn to draw and paint ( as an example). Learn something new to get your mind off of problems and feel better about herself. I hope that this helps. Most of us have been there. Do you want to mope around or do something to help yourself.
A message for Michelle,
We’ve all had our hearts broken at one time or another….I found the best remedy for this is to get back out there right away….Have a girls night out and draw some attention your way…It’s much better to know he wasn’t the one than to get married and find this out later….You go girl!!!
Hi Craig
Thank you for the advice. I argee with you, that it is better now, than if they have gotten married. I will pass this along to Michelle
Thanks for your comment.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Dear Deanna
That is a good one, take a class! It will take her mind off and for her to do somthing some.
Thanks for your comment. I think she is going to like this one.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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