Can you heal from a betrayal?
Welcome back!
A few days ago I wrote a post ‘To heal a broken heart’. Then I got a request asking about “If we can heal a broken heart from a friend’s betrayal”?
Mary has a best friend and business partner for 15 years. This best friend and business partner had recently betrayed Mary. This betrayal had done irreversible damage to Mary’s life. Mary is heart broken because of her disappointment with her long time friend and business partner. I can completely understand why Mary is heart broken; 15 years is a long time to accumulate a lot of trust and love.
Mary and I conversed over this. After Mary took a step back and looked over the situation with the business and their friendship. Mary realized that her passion is in a completely different route then the business path she was in with her partner.
Mary sees her circumstance in a new light. Through this painful experience with her old friend, now it all turned into a powerful blessing. As a result of her ex best friend / business partner’s betrayal. Mary has realized her life’s purpose and she is on her way to pursue her passion.
As to Mary’s old friend, all of these have been an eye opening experience for her as well. I am sure the old friend learned a lesson or two about herself.
What happen after a devastating betrayal? Is it possible to heal from a betrayal?
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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Hello Giovanna: This is Shaw again. Your post reminded me a story I read long time ago. It was Samurai age Japan. Peasants beloged to lower layer of society and used, abused by government. They started to fight. They defeat most of times. The leader kept telling to his people. “There are times to win or lose, but we can not stop here, we cannot keep crying here.” The leader and his people opened new age of Japanese society finally defeating Samurai government. I believe success will come if not given up.
Hi Giovanna,
Back in the day, I was friends with a girl named Barbara–for many years–all of elementary school, all of middle school, and almost all of high school until Jr year of high school. One day she came up to me w/two friends on either side and asked if I wanted to smoke w/her and her two new friends. I said, no thanks, I’m allergic. She said, well, you have two choices, either smoke or we’re no longer friends, I said Goodbye and never spoke to her again. A yr passes and I heard her bragging that she got accepted to Princeton. Years pass and I went into a Blockbuster by where I use to live in Middletown, NJ (aprox a yr ago) and I heard her talking to a friend (she didn’t see me in the store) saying that she flunked out of school and she got into a lot of trouble due to smoking and doing drugs and had to move back home and live with her parents. So, it was definitly her loss, not mine, that we’re no longer friends.
Dear Shaw
Wow, Thanks for your story. I didn’t know that!
That is right: “Success will come if we don’t give up!” Thank your for the inspirational story.
Thanks for your comment, I enjoy reading them and look forward to reading more.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Dear Nancy
That one day with Barbara and you about the smoke!? You choose you path and she did her’s. Life is Full of decisions like that! And we all have to live with the effect of our decision. It sounds like Barbara is living her’s. We hope she will find her ways again.
Good for you for standing up for yourself at such a young age. I can see you must be a strong woman!
Thanks for sharing your stroy, I am sure it inspire someone to make their own choices.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
[...] Can you heal from a betrayal? [...]
Dear Giovanna,
I was looking over the internet on tips to heal a broken heart from a best friend and I stumbled across your uplifting and inspiring site. This last January my best friend of 11 years (elementry, highschool, & 1 year of University) decided she no longer wanted to be my friend since she didnt feel good about herself when she was around me. I felt the last few years of highschool that she was insecure about herself and jealous of me. I would always be happy for her accomplishments and was always a loyal friend to her. When she told me this, I was in complete shock. Its now been almost a year and I still feel upset and hurt from her, even though in allot of ways I have moved on and its through ending the friendship that it inspired me to do amazing things this year l ike compete in Miss World Canada and step outside my comfort zone, but I cant help but feel hurt since theres nothing I could have done differently, and now that im not her friend I feel that I can finally let my own light shine brightly.
Any adivce on how to fully accept and forgive and move on would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks!
Nicole
Dear Nicole
Well, I can only tell you one thing that I know is true in life. “You cannot control what other people do or feel”. If you are sure you did not thing wrong. Than all you can do is keep being the best Nicole you can be. No one knows if she will ever come back in your life, at this time not even she does. If and when your friend is ready to come back into your life, you will know about it. Some time in life to understand is to except…you don’t understand them.
I hope that help!? Take a look around here, there are a lot of other post that you may found helpful under Personal Development.
Thanks for your comment, I hope to see you here again:-)
Keep on shining on!!
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action