The gift of Acceptance.
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Your self-acceptance is determined mainly by how you felt when you were a child. How comfortable you feel about yourself today had a lot to do with the first 5 years of your live. Did you feel you were loved? Were your emotional needs met? Did you feel that you were accepted by the important people in your life, for example: your parents, siblings, people who you looked up to? If the answers is NO. Then you will most likely be trying to compensate for that and continue to seek acceptance in others throughout your adult life.
It might surprise you to learn a little bit about what motivate people.
There are only Two motivations for people’s action:
One: To get love
Two: To compensate for the lack of love
With that said, I am sure that you are getting the idea that Love is the basis of all things. And when a person didn’t get Love in their formative years, you can imagine it will affect the person deeply.
The best way to begin building self-acceptance is to understand yourself. And to understand yourself, you will do a Honest Uncovering. In order for you to get a handle on why you do, what you do and stop being troubled by things that had happened in your past, you must be able to uncover yourself to at least one person. It is important for you to get those things off your chest. By revealing your true feelings and thoughts to someone who you feel comfortable with. Someone who can just listen without commenting or criticizing.
Then comes the Awareness. After you safely revealed your most inner thoughts and feelings. You will be made aware of the person that you truly are and why you do the things you do. You now begin to develop an objective perspective of you. You will have the ability to look at yourself and your past in honesty, detached from the intense emotions and view what happened to you with a new found calmness and a much greater clarity. This will open the doors for you to let go, and be break free from your past.
Finally you are ready for Self-Acceptance. You start to accept yourself for the person you are, with the good and bad, with your strengths and weaknesses, and with the imperfection of being human.
When you develop the ability to look at yourself honestly, and to candidly admit to others that you may not be perfect but you’re who you are, you start to enjoy self-acceptance in its highest sense and this leads to the side effect of self-acceptance ” Happiness“.
I believe happiness is to “live in the truth” with yourself and others. One of the biggest part of living in the truth is to stop trying to be perfect and to see yourself honestly, as you really are. Any attempts to achieve needless perfectionism, most time is due to the desire to impress people with how good you are, and this is a complete waste of time.
There is quote that had been quoted by many of the greats, such as Jack Canfield, Brian Tracy etc..
“When you are in your 20s, you are very concerned about what people think about you. When you are in your 30s, you don’t really care that much about what people think about you. And when you get into your 40s, you discover the real truth: Nobody was even thinking about you at all.”
Stop worry about people’s approval. Do yourself a favor by giving yourself the gift of Acceptance.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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Hi Giovanna, self acceptance is something that a lot of us have to work hard on. Thank you for the great information that you give to us. I really like the drawing that you have here. It can be such a struggle for so many of us. This does help. Keep up the good work. Teaching, guiding and sharing with us. Have a good day.
Dan and Deanna “Marketing Unscrambled”
Giovanna, totally accepted ;)!
Hi Giovanna,
I like the concept of Honest Uncovering. Basically it means talking your heart out to someone who accepts you just as you are, right? Self-acceptance sounds so basic and simple, yet most of us at some level judge ourselves because we feel parts of ourselves are not acceptable. I used to feel that my temper was not acceptable and felt enormous guilt about it and worked hard to change it. It does help me to accept others with a temper though!
Hi Giovanna,
I agree with everything that you wrote. It is so important to accept oneself and to be at peace with you are. If there is something that you do not like, accept it and see what you can do to change it. No one is perfect and the key to being at peace is to be at peace with who you are.
Hope all is well!
Very well done! Acceptance of ourselves and the Universe is key to knowing our happiness.
Acceptance is critical to living a happy, well-adjusted life. Not only must we be willing to accept others, but we need to accept ourselves as well. Thanks for this inspiring post!
Hi Deanna
I understand self-acceptance is hard for many people. I hope this post will help someone.
Thank you for your comment and sharing your thoughts.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Alik
Thank you for your comment and your support.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Daphine
Yes, Honest Uncovering partly is about talking your heart out. The other big part is about having to courage to take to leap to opening up.
Thank you for your comment and joining the conversation.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Nadia
Amen sister, No one is perfect and that is the key to at peace.
Thank you for your comment and sharing your wisdom.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Mark
Cheers to Acceptance!
Thank you for your comment and sharing your thoughts.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Positively Present
I agree wth you, my feeling is if we accept ourselves then other will as well.
Thank you for your comment and your support.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Thanks for this post. I definitely resonate with what you say about finding a compassionate listener — just having someone who will listen without judging or criticizing to what we say, no matter what it is we’re saying, can be such a healing (and rare) experience. This is what I like providing most to people I work with. — Best, Chris
Hi Gio .. I definitely this at the moment .. breaking free is challenging .. but I will do it - I can do it for myself .. doing it for the family is different. I’ll re read this post again and re evaluate the words .. thanks for putting them down for us ..
Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters
Hi Chris
Keep up the good work.
Thank you for your comment and joining in the conversation.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Hilary
You are welcome
Remember “Focus one Me!”
Thank you for your comment and sharing your thoughts.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Gift accepted
Very well written.
I like how you explored the topic of acceptance and brought it to life with story and insight.
That quote is perfect.
Hi Giovanna,
I gave myself the gift of Self-Acceptance a few years ago, and it’s been the greatest gift of all. Self-Acceptance is much like Self-Love. I wrote a quote about myself….
What is True Love?
“True Love is full acceptance of oneself. Loving every quality you possess, the good and the growing. True Love is realizing you’re not perfect, yet you give each and every moment to improve upon yourself. True Love is being True to you. So, let Love grow.”
Many Blessings….
Roxanne ~ Believe Achieve
Hi Christopher
Thank you for comment and support.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi J.D.
Thanks for kind words, it means a lot to me.
Thank you for comment and sharing your thoughts.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Hugo & Roxanne
Great to see you my friends. You are very wise to give yourself the gift of self-acceptance, I am sure it is one of the best thing you ever done.
Thank you for comment and sharing your quote with us.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
“Acceptance is the greatest survival tool of all, a spiritual Swiss army knife, because it teaches you adaptability, patience, and good humor.”
- Chris Hansard, The Tibetan Art of Living
Hi Thomas
Thank you for the quote. “Spiritual Swiss Army Knife…” I love it!
Thank you for your comment and sharing this great quote from Chris Hansard. You have added more this post.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action