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Support System

Support System

 

The road to success has a lot of speed bumps. There will be hard times. There will be times when the risks you take fail. There will be times when the outside world doesn’t believe in you, or tries to hurt you. These are the times when you need someplace safe to come home to.

         

Your support system is that safe haven.

 

The key to creating and nurturing a good support system is having good communication skills, and developing good communication skills starts at home. It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking our families for granted. After a hard day we come home tired and just want to relax. We forget to pass on the common courtesies to our family that we’d give to a complete stranger—things like saying “please,” “thank you,” and “how was your day?” You can’t let this happen! The foundation for good communication skills starts at home and it starts with the little things. Treat your family right. That means, be polite and treat your family the way you want to be treated. Think beyond yourself and do what’s best for the family, not necessarily what’s best for you personally at that moment. Work at building your support system at home so you can fall back on it during rough times.

 

Always remember if you want to be heard, listen.

         

It’s a common misconception that having good communication skills means being able to speak well. Wrong! Listening is much more important. We have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Whether it’s your spouse, a friend, coworker, client, or competitor, you need to seek to understand before being understood. There are two reasons for this. First of all, people want to be understood. Once they feel you understand them, they will let their guard down and listen to you. Secondly, by listening and understanding you will have a better grasp of how to communicate what you have to say effectively.

         

In a way, all interactions with people are like negotiations; it’s not a time for you to preach, but rather a time for you to open up a two-way street, to create a dialogue. If you can listen, you can understand, and when you understand the other person, your job is then to communicate clearly what you have to say.

         

You can create and nurture a great support system by, treating everyone the way you wish to be treated and communicating effectively by find that healthy common ground where everyone can benefits the most.

 

Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

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15 Comments

Peter Baca says: 31 July 2009 - 10:54 pm

Hi Giovanna,

I could not agree with you more! Having a support system is important….when things go wrong….and they will from time to time. It is good to have someone to talk and rethink things!

Many times this discussion can get you on the right track! Thanks for your enlightening post!

Pete Baca
The Car Enthusiast Online

Daphne @ Joyful Days says: 1 August 2009 - 2:05 am

Giovanna,

Loved your point that communication is not about talking, but about listening. Something for me to remember and work on!

J.D. Meier says: 1 August 2009 - 11:27 am

Beautiful focus.

I think it’s important to have a support system on the job, especially if you want to stretch your wings. One of my tests is “who’s got your back?”, and it’s all about vulnerability-based trust.

Positively Present says: 1 August 2009 - 4:17 pm

Support systems are SO important. I’m so glad you wrote about them here!

Tess The Bold Life says: 2 August 2009 - 5:02 am

Great rminder! It took me a long time to figure this out and when I finally did relationships became magical!

Stephen - Rat Race Trap says: 2 August 2009 - 7:00 am

Giovanna, excellent advice! The first couple of minutes you spend nurturing those relationships when you walk in the door are the most important.

Hilary says: 2 August 2009 - 10:11 am

Hi Gio .. families and friends are so important, we need to exert ourselves to keep them intact, so those initial few minutes are critical to the relationship to keep that trust they have in you.

There aren’t any excuses … and the listening reminder is essential too . but think about what you’re listening to .. take it on board - it’s probably relevant to them and possibly you too ..

Thanks Hilary Melton-Butcher
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Giovanna Garcia says: 2 August 2009 - 10:43 am

Hi Daphne
Yes, that is why we have 2 ears :-) Thanks for your comment and joining the conversation.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Giovanna Garcia says: 2 August 2009 - 10:45 am

Hi J.D.
That is a good one! “Who got your back!?” I like that a lot. :-) Thanks for your comment and sharing your wisdom.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Giovanna Garcia says: 2 August 2009 - 11:14 am

Hi Positively Present
We all have a support system of some kind. I hope this post will help everyone to improve their own support systems.
Thanks for your comment and being a part of this post.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Giovanna Garcia says: 2 August 2009 - 11:20 am

Hi Tess
Relationships are like most good things in life. You get back what you put into it. :-) Thanks for your comment and sharing your story.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Giovanna Garcia says: 2 August 2009 - 8:39 pm

Hi Stephen
A couple of minutes goes a long way! :-) Thanks for your comment and sharing your wisdom.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Giovanna Garcia says: 2 August 2009 - 8:46 pm

Hi Hilary
Great advice! I like what you have to say and I totally agree with you.
Thanks for your comment and adding more to this post.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

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