Do you generate a good attitude?
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Attitude defines the type of world we each live in. If you have a bad attitude, you live in a miserable world. If you have a good attitude, you live in a world ripe with possibilities and happiness. A good attitude means having the right perspective. It’s the lenses you look through to see the world—sort of like magic glasses. The great thing about these glasses is you get to choose how they’re tinted. It’s a choice. You choose how to respond to people and situations. No one else has the power to dictate the way you react to any given situation. Why then do so many people have bad attitudes?
I believe very strongly that people are aware when they have a bad attitude. They recognize that they are being grumpy or angry or bitter, but they choose not to change. They refuse to take responsibility for their attitude and take control of their own choices. Living like this starts a dangerous downward spiral.
Your attitude effects the people around you, and the fact is, people don’t want to be around someone with a bad attitude! People are attracted to individuals with good attitudes in all arenas of life, whether as an employer, coworker, friend, family member, or romantic interest. If you have a bad attitude, people don’t want to be around you and that fuels the negative attitude. It is a feedback loop of negativity.
On the other hand, if you have a good attitude, people will want to be around you. Some people ask, is it the chicken or egg that comes first—is it being successful and having good people around you that creates a good attitude, or does having a good attitude cultivate success and draw good people toward you? I think you already know my answer. The good attitude definitely comes first. You either control your attitude or your attitude will control you.
I understand that many people are hesitant to embrace the idea that having a good attitude can solve all our problems, and you know what, in a way those people are right. We hear the saying “Have a positive attitude!” get thrown around willy nilly all the time, and I know we’ve all met people in our lives who fake their positive attitude and say everything is peachy and great even if it’s not. It doesn’t work that way. That’s why I say we need to have a good attitude, not a positive attitude. Having a good attitude is 80% about being positive. The other 20% is about being realistic.
Having a good attitude is all about: Don’t criticize, don’t complain or make excuses. Focus on what you have control of—which at the very least is yourself!—and don’t fixate on things that are beyond your control. Always make the effort to improve every situation you are in, and have faith. Believe that everything will work out in the long run as long as you follow your purpose and have a good attitude.
Also, recognize that you control how people perceive you. Your attitude is expressed in many ways. Only 7% of your attitude comes through based on what you say. Another 38% is based on your tone and how you say it, and the other 55% is non-verbal. How do you carry yourself? Do you smile? Do you make eye contact? Do you give people hardy handshakes? Do you hug?
All these things dictate how people perceive you, so it’s important to be aware of your attitude and how you express it. If you generate a good attitude from within you, you’ll create a positive attitude around you and people will be drawn to that.
Pay attention to your attitudes, you may learn something new.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
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Great post. Attitude is so important. For so long I had such a bad attitude and I made myself and everyone around me miserable. Now that I’m working on changing my attitude into a more positive one, I’m a LOT happier!
I really enjoyed this post. Very informative, but I would like to leave this blog with a great quote which symbolizes what a great attitude can create.
“Watch your thought; the become words,
Watch your words; they become actions,
Watch your actions; they become habit,
Watch your habits; they become a character
Watch your character; it become a destiny”
- Lao Tze
I know immediately when I have a poor attitude. Heck I know 10 minutes before I open my mouth.
I ask myself, “What kind of energy am I banking now? What can I do now to take action in my own behalf?” This snaps me out of a pity party and into action!
I think a good attitude is just going with the flow, whatever happens and realizing things don’t usually matter near as much as we think they do.
A shift in consciousness is always ours for the taking.
Thank you Giovanna for the great post. It is all up to us in how we handle things in our lives. How do we choose to live.
Dan and Deanna “Marketing Unscrambled”
Hi Giovanna,
Great post. I always like articles about attitude.
Attitude is also an important attribute beside integrity. Many relationships, whether its personal or business, damaged because of bad attitude.
Thanks for sharing, Giovanna.
Hi Gio .. I have to say my attitude has improved hugely over the years .. I still learn and recognise when I get it wrong .. sometimes when people take me by surprise and when I’m not expecting that interruption .. then I’m ashamed that I reacted the way I did. I’ve also learnt to be calm in difficult situations and that sees me through - however I still react - it will get better ..
All the best have a great weekend .. Hilary Melton-Butcher
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Thanks for this — it’s true that the conventional wisdom seems to be that “I’ll be okay with myself and everyone else once I get where I’m trying to go.” But “where we’re trying to go,” when we have that attitude, never seems to arrive. I have this kind of thought when I see people who are very angry and pushy while they’re driving — they seem to think things will be better for them when they get to their destination, but with the way they are seeing the world I doubt it.
Perfect. Exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you!
“Having a good attitude is 80% about being positive. The other 20% is about being realistic.”
Good way to put it –
Hi Giovanna,
Love your difference between a Positive attitude and having a Good attitude. It sure makes sense! Must be realistic and always remember we have control over our attitudes and not to dwell on the things we can not control. Always have our Magic Glasses on!
Many Blessings….
Roxanne and Hugo
Believe Achieve
Hi Jonathanfigaro
Giovanna Garcia
That is one of my favorites quote.
Thank you for your comment and the quote.
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Tess
That is great that you are so aware of your attitude, you are so ahead of many people.
Thank you for your comment and joining the conversation.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Jannie
Going with the flow is very good for people, I think it also give them peace.
Thank you for your comment and sharing your wisdom.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Deanna
We have a choice on everything that happen around us.
Thank you for your comment and your shared.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Arswino
attitude is such a simple thing that many people over look.
Thank you for your comment and adding more to this post.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Hilary
Thanks for your comment and support.
As long as you work on your attitude that is a great thing to do. So, just keep at it.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Chris
Your comment reminded me of the saying, “Life is a journey,enjoy the ride.”
Thank you for your comment and sharing your thoughts.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Dave
I am glad this post came to you at the right time.
How have you been my friend?
Thank you for your support.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Paul
Thank you for your kind words and comment.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
Hi Hugo & Roxanne
Well said!!
I love the way you sums it up.
Thank you for your comment and sharing your thoughts.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
> They refuse to take responsibility for their attitude and take control of their own choices. Living like this starts a dangerous downward spiral.
Well put.
I’m a fan of making people smile and lifting others up.
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